The FORM/FARM conversation is an easy, honorable way to engage someone in conversation. It's simple and effective. There is no limit to the number of questions that can be asked. Feel free to ask follow up questions. Depending on the situation, the conversation may take place in 6 minutes or over 6 months. While it's good to share common interests, remember this is about the other person not you. The goal is to eventually inform them about Jesus and invite them to know more.
F = Family.
Questions having to do with a living situation or children. Questions like, "Do you have a family?" or "Are you from this area?"
O = Occupation/Academics.
Questions having to do with work. Questions like, "What do you do for work?" or "What do you do for a living?"
For students the O becomes A (academics) and it becomes the FARM conversation. Questions having to so with school studies or academic interests. Questions like, "What are you studying?" or "What are your academic interests?"
R = Recreation.
Question having to do with hobbies or special interests. Questions like, "What do you like to do for fun?" or "Do you have any hobbies?"
M = Message.
Here is where the conversation becomes spiritual. You can choose to gradually move in that direction by asking about a person's spiritual background. You might say something like, "It's been fun getting to know you personally. I'm curious, what is your spiritual background?" If you begin with the gradual approach, be sure to eventually move to the direct approach.
You may choose to be more direct by asking a more pointed question. You might say something like, "Do you mind if I ask you a spiritual question?" "The Bible says God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. This means, God loves you, he sacrificed his Son for you, and he can change your life. He changed mine and he can do the same for you. Is that something you would like to know more about?" By asking this way, you combine the last two parts of Gather (Inform and Invite) all in one question.
You can also share your personal story or listen for what my friend Logan calls, "redemptive nuggets." These are words related to the redemptive life Jesus offers. Words like, love, joy, hope, peace, power and purpose.
Click here to learn how we use the FARM conversation doing "Clipboard" on a campus setting.